One of the most critical tools for a kinkster to know and use is aftercare. Not everyone practices this post-sex ritual, but those who engage in it report of greater and deeper levels of satisfaction in their relationship with BDSM or any other kink they happen to be into. Unawareness of the importance of aftercare may lead to significant drops in a person’s self-esteem and mood, and may even cause you to shy away from the very thing you’re getting off on.
Let’s take a closer look at what really makes aftercare so important.
At a fundamental level, aftercare is a series of procedures and techniques you perform following a rather intense or overwhelming sexual experience as a matter of both self-care and partner care. This manifests itself very differently between people, and can constitute general activities such as pillow talk, grabbing a post-sex snack, or even watching your favorite movie. More extreme sexual activities, like flogging, may leave injuries that require prompt attention following intercourse proper; always take the opportunity to treat any cuts and bruises with the proper ointments and medical supplies, and to replenish on fluids and nutrients.
Aftercare also involves making sure you and your partner’s emotional needs are met, as well. Ultimately, it boils down to the question: “Are you both okay?” Always establish a connection with your partners and make sure their feelings are both respected and protected during any kink session, and communicate with one another frequently!
There’s a lot more to cover regarding the finer points of aftercare that we haven’t touched on in this post, so we’ve gone out of our way to attach a couple of video links from educators in the worlds of kink and BDSM that may share even greater insights into the best practices and procedures for taking care of yourselves, and each other.
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