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How BDSM Can Impact Your Mental Health

Although there is a shift in the paradigm surrounding discussions of BDSM, there are still a number of misconceptions that make it taboo to talk about openly with people such as family or friends. Of course, everyone’s circle of influences vary from person to person, so it stands to reason that there are a few of you out there who are still on the fence about practicing BDSM or allowing a kink to enter the graces of your bedroom. But read further, and you’ll discover that there are some practical benefits to letting your sex life get just a little spicier.


The Benefits Of BDSM

Confidence-Building

A more overt example of the advantages that can be found engaging in BDSM or other kinks is self-confidence. Whether you’re dominant or submissive in bed, exploring the power dynamic between you and your partner is a great way to identify your own needs and wants, and can also act as a platform to communicate with other kinksters on their own experiences. After all, what better way to amp up your bedroom game than to have a good talk with other like-minded people?

Reduce Stress

A study conducted at Northern Illinois University showed that partners with dominant tendencies exhibited a decrease in cortisol after a kink scene as opposed to beforehand. Lower cortisol helps the body fight off infections and maintain blood pressure and also has an impact on our overall mental health.




Learning To Be A Better Communicator

As it was briefly touched on above, communication is absolutely critical for BDSM and other kink play to be considered healthy; without it, breakdowns in the relationship can, and most likely will, occur. Ergo, we strongly encourage everyone who wants to engage in this kind of bedroom play to please talk with one another about your interests and limitations. Discussion of these issues prior to a bedroom scene will help you to better talk about your other needs and desires, as well, and can only bring about long-term satisfaction.


Helps Build Trust

Trust is critical for any relationship, but it is especially so if yours incorporates BDSM or any other kink as part of a lifestyle. You cannot expect yourself, or your partner/s, to fully submit to the circumstances of a scene if there are elements of it which cause undue stress or anxiety. Everyone must be on the same page as each other! Submissives must be especially scrutinous of their dominants, as well; do not force yourself to participate against your better judgment. Likewise, dominants must show understanding and compassion for their submissives, lest they decide to find somebody else that will take their needs seriously.


Can Help With Your Mental Health


A study was conducted by the International Society for Sexual Medicine to measure the mental well-being of people that enjoy participating in BDSM, and these results were obtained by examining key personality traits within each person interviewed. Such traits included attachment styles, general quality of life, and how sensitive respondents were to rejection when compared to those in a control group.

Participants in the BDSM group felt more secure in their relationships, had an increased sense of personal well-being, were more conscientious of other people, and also more open to engaging in new experiences. It was also reported that those in the BDSM group experienced decreased anxiety and were less reactive to public opinion.


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